The Word for What’s Exhausting You: System
Have you ever fallen into bed completely exhausted — only to lie there wide awake, running through everything you forgot to do, respond to, or organize? That bone-tired exhaustion that doesn't let you rest? There's actually a name for what's happening, and this week's guest coined it.
Stassi Chaillé, LPC is a therapist, educator, and founder of System-Keeping™ — the first framework to name the root cause of women's self-abandonment.
With dual master's degrees from Columbia University in Culturally Oppressive Systems and Psychological Counseling, Stassi coined System-Keeping™ to describe the invisible, anticipatory labor women perform to keep families, workplaces, marriages, and entire economies functioning — labor that was never consented to, never credited, and designed to be impossible to stop.
Through her monthly masterclass, private liberation container, and writing, Stassi works with high-functioning women who can't understand why burnout interventions keep failing — until they see that the system requiring their self-abandonment is still intact. System-Keeping™ is why.
Once a woman understands she was conditioned into this, the question stops being what's wrong with me and becomes what was I trained to carry.
By the end of our conversation, you'll see your life differently. We promise.
We cover:
What System-Keeping™ is — and why "mental load" doesn't tell the whole story
The three-part triangle: conditioning, invisible contracts, and the nervous system loop
How System-Keeping™ shows up physically in your body — and what the research says
The self-abandonment at the center of it all
What one realistic first shift looks like when you're ready to start putting something down
Events mentioned:
Stassi's System Keeping™ Masterclass on the last Thursday of every month → Sign Up Here
Book a 1:1 consult with Stassi here!
🪺 Birth Prep Series. with Dr. Emily. Check our website for the latest dates!
About Dr. Emily:
Emily is on a mission to change the way we prepare for the chapter of welcoming a baby into our homes. Emily is a Doctor of Physical Therapy, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and the founder of Be Well Baby® — a multidisciplinary in-home practice in Portland, Oregon serving families from pregnancy through the early years with baby. She's also a mom of three, and creator of the online educational community the Beyond Birth Blueprint.
